6 Signs Telling If Your Relationship Is Just A Friendship Or Something More
Most people
are currently in some sort of a relationship or contact with someone
else. Our relationships sometimes become deeper and more meaningful.
That’s when we start wondering whether
we are liked or loved and whether the person we are with is the one.
However, serious relationships cannot be all about mere attraction, no
matter how strong that might be. You heart should not contradict and
contrast with what your mind tells you. This is what we call harmony and
balance. If they disagree, then chances are you are with the wrong
person. It’s a very responsible step to decide to spend the rest of your
life with someone you have feelings for. Here is a list of points that
you should keep in mind while looking for your life partner.
1. Attention Vs Care
Do you feel that the person you are with cares about you or is it that he simply pays attention? We pay attention even to strangers because we want to be accepted by our society. Besides, paying attention means being polite and does not mean that you are in love with the person. But when you are cared about, your partner is trying to get to know you better by listening to your favorite music, reading your favorite books and so on. We often pay attention to those we get some sort of benefits from while care is a more serious feeling.
1. Attention Vs Care
Do you feel that the person you are with cares about you or is it that he simply pays attention? We pay attention even to strangers because we want to be accepted by our society. Besides, paying attention means being polite and does not mean that you are in love with the person. But when you are cared about, your partner is trying to get to know you better by listening to your favorite music, reading your favorite books and so on. We often pay attention to those we get some sort of benefits from while care is a more serious feeling.
2. All Talk Vs All Action
We want to be loved and some of us cannot avoid liking those who promise us a lot. People might use your naivety against you by making you believe that they are the ones who can turn all your dreams into reality. However, do not fall too easily for such promises. Usually they are empty. As a rule, the person who truly wants to participate in your life will act more and speak less. It is difficult to find a person for whom our own concerns would be number one priority. But if there is such a person in your life, be sure that you are loved.
We want to be loved and some of us cannot avoid liking those who promise us a lot. People might use your naivety against you by making you believe that they are the ones who can turn all your dreams into reality. However, do not fall too easily for such promises. Usually they are empty. As a rule, the person who truly wants to participate in your life will act more and speak less. It is difficult to find a person for whom our own concerns would be number one priority. But if there is such a person in your life, be sure that you are loved.
3. Hearing Vs Listening
Pay attention to the way your partner listens to you. We can be good listener only when the person we are talking to is important to us. It is almost impossible to imitate interest in the conversation. Listening involves the wish to make changes, while hearing is too passive and does not lead anywhere.
Pay attention to the way your partner listens to you. We can be good listener only when the person we are talking to is important to us. It is almost impossible to imitate interest in the conversation. Listening involves the wish to make changes, while hearing is too passive and does not lead anywhere.
4. Interest Vs Investment
Most people we are friends with are interested in us and want to know how we live and what we do. Only few people are ready to invest themselves in you and do something meaningful in order to make you happier. Do not blame the person if you do not feel this – it merely means you are friends, which is great, but definitely not life partners. If your target is to create a family, then you should find someone who is prepared to invest in you and your relationship.
Most people we are friends with are interested in us and want to know how we live and what we do. Only few people are ready to invest themselves in you and do something meaningful in order to make you happier. Do not blame the person if you do not feel this – it merely means you are friends, which is great, but definitely not life partners. If your target is to create a family, then you should find someone who is prepared to invest in you and your relationship.
5. Concerned Vs Involved
Is your partner concerned or involved in your life? A man who is planning on spending the rest of his life with you will want to take part in every aspect of your life, be it happy or sad moments. Watch him meet your relatives and family members to decide if he clicks well with them. Is he looking forward to meeting your siblings, parents and best friends? If he is indifferent, then he is not fully involved and is not serious about your future relationship.
Is your partner concerned or involved in your life? A man who is planning on spending the rest of his life with you will want to take part in every aspect of your life, be it happy or sad moments. Watch him meet your relatives and family members to decide if he clicks well with them. Is he looking forward to meeting your siblings, parents and best friends? If he is indifferent, then he is not fully involved and is not serious about your future relationship.
6. Thinking For You Vs Thinking Of You
Honesty is the best policy. The proverb teaches you to surround yourself with those who will tell you the truth no matter what. You will always feel if he is merely criticizing you or expressing his opinion while trying to give you advice and offering his help. Do not let your partner manipulate you or make you do what you think is wrong. You need people who are capable of inspiring you and assisting you. The one who loves you will want the best for you. After all his mission is to make you happy, protect you and be part of the solution.
Honesty is the best policy. The proverb teaches you to surround yourself with those who will tell you the truth no matter what. You will always feel if he is merely criticizing you or expressing his opinion while trying to give you advice and offering his help. Do not let your partner manipulate you or make you do what you think is wrong. You need people who are capable of inspiring you and assisting you. The one who loves you will want the best for you. After all his mission is to make you happy, protect you and be part of the solution.
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